MOSTOV'S MUSINGS

The garter toss: one of the few wedding traditions where otherwise civilized adults suddenly transform into competitive athletes pursuing a piece of lace through the air. Most wedding traditions are kitschy but cute. We wear something borrowed and something blue. We unveil the bride. We clink glasses until the newlyweds surrender and kiss. We cut the cake. We toss the bouquet. Most of these customs are charming little relics that have somehow survived the centuries, even if n

Most weddings don’t go off the rails because of one big moment—they unravel slowly when boundaries aren’t set, plans aren’t communicated, and “more” quietly replaces “better.” After DJing hundreds of weddings over nearly three decades, I’ve seen exactly what separates calm, joyful celebrations from the ones that end up as cautionary tales online. This post breaks down how to plan with intention, protect your guest experience, and keep your wedding from becoming a story no one

Every wedding begins as a possibility before it becomes a reality. January 15, 2026 Last Saturday, sometime during the grand entrance, I found myself thinking about a wedding that didn't happen. Not the wedding I was working. That wedding was very much happening. The bridal party was lined up outside the ballroom doors. The photographer was crouched in position waiting for the reactions. The guests were standing and applauding. The bride was laughing. The groom looked equal p

Twenty-six years of marriage teaches you things no book, podcast, or pre-marital workshop ever could. In this deeply personal post, I look back on my own love story—where it’s thrived, where it’s struggled, and why the light has always outweighed the dark. I’m sharing the truths, the lessons, and the small-but-mighty habits that have carried my wife and me through more than a quarter century together. If you’re engaged, newly married, or decades in, there’s something here for

Jewish weddings are rich with tradition, music, and moments that bring generations together. The Hora is one of the most enduring traditions in Jewish celebrations, appearing at weddings, holidays, and milestones across generations. From its Eastern European roots and connection to Hava Nagila to its continued presence at Jewish weddings in the United States, this post explores the history, meaning, and joy behind the dance—and why it still brings entire rooms together. Wheth

If you think people only choose upbeat, feel-good songs for their grand entrance… oh, friend. You’re in for a treat. Some couples are determined to enter their receptions like a breakup montage or a villain reveal. In this post, I recall pure musical mayhem—some of the most head-scratching, mood-killing grand entrance songs I’ve ever seen used in the wild—and yes, they’re all real. Not every wedding music disaster begins on the dance floor. Sometimes it starts with a song

Today, I’m celebrating what I consider the greatest love song ever recorded: Etta James’ “At Last.” In this post, I dig into why this 1960 masterpiece has become the soundtrack of romance, how James’ spellbinding voice transformed it into a wedding staple, and why I play it at every single reception I DJ. Etta James, circa 1960 September 11, 2025 I want to take just a moment to discuss what I believe to be the quintessential love song. It is one I play at every wedding. It i